attention jim

From: "Dawn DelliSanti" <CREEDGIRLL@AOL.COM>
To: <CREED-DISCUSS@WINDUPLIST.COM>
Date: Sun
18 Nov 2001 18:48:23 EST

In a message dated 11/18/01 3:11:21 PM Eastern Standard Time, KJRHO@AOL.COM writes:

Amen Sista!!! I totally true agree with ya! lol I don't where he got the idea that if you get a divorce. You suck at marriage. That is a bunch of crap . lol

Kat

Yes, it most definitely is, and now that I have recovered a bit, I will say this. If I am married to someone, and he starts drinking and beating my children and me, and I ask him to get help, but he refuses, and eventually, we end up divorced, how the hell does that translate into ME sucking at marriage. I could be trying my hardest to work things out, but my husband may want NO part of that. I can change me, but I surely can't change him, and if you think that a woman should stay with a man who is abusing her as this scenario suggests and that if she doesn't, she sucks at marriage, I would be utterly amazed.

Scenario number 2:
My husband is cheating on me. Communication has been lacking. I have been trying to reach out and work things out with him. He has been resisting me. I eventually walk in on him with another woman. Even after this, I suggest counseling, but he refuses. I try my best to make this marriage work out, but he just won't put forth any effort, and we end up divorced. Can you still tell me here that I must suck at marriage because I got divorced?