================================================ Subject: Re: NCR-Just need to talk From: To: Date: Tue 18 Sep 2001 06:06:17 +0000 ================================================ melissa, as a critical care nurse, i am faced with death almost daily...if not directly, then by trying to prevent it...altho lately i find myself to be more of an advocate for my patients being allowed to die with dignity vs. the doctor's pursuing heroics for a buck...but let me just say, that the day that i do not take a patient's death personally is the day i need to find a new line of work...and even being in the field i'm in, it doesn't help much when it is a friend or loved one who is lost...the only thing is, i can recognize the stages of grief, and give myself a little break, understanding that it's 'normal'...so i fully understand your need to be away from that atmosphere...as a small girl, my girlscout troop regularly played bingo at a local nursing home...i came home in tears every time...i told my mother that i hated it, promising those people that i would come back to see them, knowing i never would...what an awakening that was... Lee -- ~~they laugh at us because we're different; we laugh at them because they're all the same~~Drowning Pool ~~Be careful what you learn, sometimes knowing burns~~Virgos Merlot > I used to do some volunteer work with the elderly when I was around 17 and > although it had so many rewards and these people lived full lives I had to > stop for my own sanity. Death is something that I do not know how to deal > with. Even with the faith that one acquires though their religion > sometimes offers little help. I'm not afraid to die but one of my biggest > fears is being left alone in this world to raise my children. My deepest > sympathy goes out to you and your family for the ordeals you've faced. I > to am here to talk or lend a helping hand when its needed. Indeed when > people stand together life seems to be at least bearable. > Creed~Tunes~Fan > Melissa > My goodness its getting late. I'll never be up by 6. > You were Not rambling. It meant a lot > > > > At 01:14 AM 9/18/2001 -0400, Lvablemm@cs.com wrote: > >Cancer has got to be one of the TOUGHEST things for a person to go through. > >It's weird, because you never know what to expect. My grandfather was > >diagnosed with prostate Cancer this spring, and my friend's father was > >diagnosed with lung cancer around the same time. My grandfather is 78 and > >now doing fine, and my friend's father was in his late 30's, and passed away > >last week. It doesn't seem fair. Just like it wasn't fair for my husband to > >be killed at 24 years old, and leave 2 kids behind. But I can tell you that > >anyone can get through anything, if they have love and support. And the most > >important thing in the WORLD is to be there for your friends when they need > >you. I stood up at my husband's funeral and said "2 days before he died, he > >told me he had no friends. And now there are 500 people here who each came > >up to me and offered to help. If any of you walk away from here having > >learned ANYTHING, i don't want it to be something about Mike, I want it to be > >this: Tell your friends and family that you love them. Tell them what you > >love about them. Be there for them when THEY need you, even if they don't > >ask." I heard a quote about a week after he died, and it may have been here > >on the list, or elsewhere, I can't remember. but it said "People will forget > >the things you say, and people will forget the thigns you do. But people > >will never forget the way you made them feel." All you can do is be there > >for the ones you love when they're going through these things. So I want YOU > >guys to know, that I'm here for you. > > > >I know "blah blah blah." Sorry, I'm rambling. > > > >Jen (not slap happy anymore, suddenly very somber) > > > >In a message dated 9/17/2001 10:08:59 PM Central Daylight Time, > >creedtunesfan@PEOPLEPC.COM writes: > > > ><< Just to let you know your not alone and normally I wouldn't be mentioning > >this. I had terrible smack in the face too. Yesterday I found out that one > >of our friends now has prostate cancer and the tumor is to large to remove. > >I know he's not gone but it still hurts knowing he's going to be going > >through an ordeal that no one should have to. > > > > Take Care, it will get better. > > CREED~TUNES~FAN > > ~~~Melissa~~~ >> > > To unsubscribe or change your preferences for the Creed-Discuss list, visit: > http://www.winduplist.com/ls/discuss/form.asp To unsubscribe or change your preferences for the Creed-Discuss list, visit: http://www.winduplist.com/ls/discuss/form.asp